July 2025

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Good morning,
You never know how you will react to the death of a spouse. until it happens to you.    
 

            Grief and Humpty Dumpty (from a griever’s perspective)
 

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall. Why was he sitting there in the first place? Was he sad? Lonely? Or maybe even grieving? Let’s assume Humpty was grieving and just having one of those days when he needed to be alone, but he chose a risky place where there was a potential of getting hurt. In grief, we sometimes are faced with problems and decisions. We wonder what to do. It’s very much like “sitting on a wall” to contemplate what next?
 

Humpty Dumpty had a great fall. It wasn’t just a fall; it was a great fall. Maybe he fell from the wall because he was unable to accept the reality of his loss. Maybe he felt stuck in a very dark place. He might even have had that “fall” of grief that happens when everything changes, and you feel so overwhelmed and sad, that you put yourself at risk. However, you might describe your fall; in grief; it hurts!
 

All the King’s horses and all the King’s men. The best recruits were called to help put Humpty back together. That would be your loyal family and caring friends. They all want to help but don’t know what to do!

Couldn’t put Humpty together again!
However, these men had an unrealistic task. No one could reassemble the pieces, especially Humpty’s broken heart--- assuming he had one. The King’s men, try as they might, couldn’t change his fate.
 

The moral of this story.

So, what’s the moral of Humpty Dumpty as a grief story? It’s a reminder that the heart is fragile, like life. After the loss to feelings, thoughts, and everything around you. Though of someone loved, it will feel shattered and vulnerable it can’t be unbroken, it can heal in its own way. No one can heal your brokenness’ not even the king’s horses or men. It must be your decision to live beyond your loss in a way that values family, and WPS friends who gratefully step up to walk with you through your grief. Invest in, guard, and protect those kinds of relationships. These are the treasures and the resources for healing and finding peace.

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Ruth Turner, Outreach Chairman and Certified Grief Support Facilitator